The Consequences of Parents Not Paying Attention to Their Children
Now, parents themselves are subordinate, and they cave in to the demands of their children. This is the effect of not giving their children Ta’leem. Instead of Ta’leem, the parents remain careless.
Those parents who are careless about their children, they will themselves become the ruled ones and the children, rulers; fulfilling all their desires, giving them all kinds of choices, prioritising their happiness over one’s own wishes, making sure they have no grievances, not explaining to them what is good and what is bad. Then how can they be under control? Inevitably, the situation will then be what is being seen now.
Generally, the result is that now girls are very free and fearless, doing whatever they want, without fear for parents, without fear for Allah, without shame for the world, without respect, and without consideration for dignity.
They don’t even know what dignity and shame are, nor do they know its value and status. They’ve lost the path of kindness and love and have gone astray from the path of modesty and shame. Now, it is as though they don’t care about the path they’re on and where they’re going.
They are not familiar with good company. They are fond of entertainment, sightseeing, novels, and gossips.
They are averse to the Qur’aan and Hadith, they are ignorant of the Divine Commandments, they are inclined towards disobedience; they are liars, faultfinders, enemies of friends, friends of enemies, hot-tempered and irritable.
They like the fashion they see, choose whatever path they want, not bound to the Shariah, not respectful, not having any Islamic dignity, not aware of the future, not seeing consequences, and they cannot distinguish between good and bad.
They cannot distinguish between themselves and others, right and wrong, honour and humiliation, noble and disgraced, master and servant, rich and poor, spring and autumn, sorrow and comfort, shame and immodesty, knowledge and ignorance, darkness and light, sight and blindness, punishment and reward. It is as if they have broken away from everything.
(Husn-e-Mu’aasharat)