The Speaking Style of Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam)
Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘alaihi Wasallam) always spoke distinctly, clearly and in a way that everyone could understand. The listeners could count his words one by one. When it was necessary, he would repeat the important sentences three times during his speech.
When Allah’s Messenger (Sallallahu ‘alaihi Wasallam) talked, he always acted like a humble brother, a compassionate teacher and a merciful father towards his Companions; and when he wanted to teach them some of the rules of etiquette, he addressed them with a soft tone.
He used different speaking styles when he addressed them: a playful style, a heartfelt style, gratifying, promising and encouraging styles, metaphorical, stimulating and thought-provoking styles, etc. He never spoke in an offending, despising, insulting or immoderate style.
When he spoke to a person, he gave him full attention, and he showed love to the worst person of the nation so that the person may feel special. He generously distributed his cheerfulness and good character to every person and fulfilled the rights of each one of them equally. He exercised patience even when he was asked harsh and indecent questions. He spoke kindly without being harsh towards anyone. He was also cautious not to embarrass anyone.
Allah loves kindness and gentleness in all matters, so we should exhibit these qualities even when we face abuse and cruelty. On one occasion, Rasulullah (Sallallahu ‘alaihi Wasallam) was insulted and cursed by his enemies but he did not return their curses. Rather, he showed patience and forbearance and encouraged his companions to be kind.
Aisha (RadhiAllahu ‘anha) reported that a group of Jews asked permission to visit Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘alaihi Wasallam) and when they were admitted they said, “Saamu Alaikum”, instead of “Assalaamu Alaikum”. Saamu Alaikum means ‘Death be upon you’.
Ummul Mu’mineen Aisha (RadhiAllahu ‘anha) retorted, “Saamu Alaikum wa La’natullah!” (Rather death and the curse of Allah be upon you!)” Nabi (Sallallahu ‘alaihi Wasallam) said: “O Aisha, Allah is kind and He loves kindness in all matters.” [Sahih Bukhari].
A wise and astute person is one who always uses gentle language when speaking to people from all walks of life, including his arch enemies. We have no use for unpleasant and spiteful words and a harsh tone, so we should get rid of all these vices from our nature.
May Allah grant us the understanding of how to use our tongue in the right manner…aameen.…and Allah Ta’ala knows best.
(Haqqseeker Marhoom)