Speaking Gently 1

Cleaning Your Inner-self

Harshness of the Tongue Influenced by the Inner-self filth

Our inner-self filth can very often lead our tongue to commit numerous sins. One sin repeatedly committed by our tongue is that of the harshness in our speech as well as in our tone. At times when we are talking to a person, we blurt out some foul words in an equally repugnant tone, without realising how much we are hurting that person.

To attain piety and also to create a positive impression upon the people we are communicating to, we should always keep that harshness away from the language we speak and from the tone we use.

When we talk to people we should always speak gently.

Speaking gently involves using gentle words and a gentle tone. It is better by far to rule by love than fear! Let no harsh words ruin the good that we may do or the good that we may carry in our heart.

Let the words that come from our mouth be like gems, pearls or diamonds and not like spears, arrows or bullets.

Aisha (radhiAllahu ‘anha) reported: Nabi Sallallahu ‘alaihi Wasallam said: “If Allah Almighty intends good for a household, he lets gentleness enter their home.” (Source: Musnad Aḥmad 23906).

There are many around us who deserve our gentle word, so we should speak gently to them. It will not cost us anything. On the contrary, if we speak gently to them, we can gain a lot in this world as well as in the next.

In short, the gentleness in our speech can become the means of reflecting the goodness of our nature and our personality.

(Haqqseeker Marhoom)